Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) is a serious mental illness characterized by intense fear of abandonment, rage and anxiety.
People who have been diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) have difficulty understanding who they are and often have no sense of personal identity, no stable identity. They also display serious attachment issues and tend to have disordered personal relationships with other people. People with BPD also experience intense mood swings and feelings of rage which causes them to act out which further disrupts their personal relationships. Learn More →
Why Not a BPD Performance Coach?
Anyone who watches Showcase has no doubt come across Wendy Rhoades, the hedge fund performance coach who turns floundering managers into superstars. She’s got all the right skills and credentials: lots of experience in the field AND her medical degree as a psychiatrist are her stunning credentials, the things which make her both credible and effective.
If you have BPD why not hire a BPD performance coach? I was diagnosed with BPD more than 35 years ago when the illness was only just being used as a diagnostic tool. At the time, it was not well understood and the jury was still out about whether or not it was even a “real thing” or not.
I’ve lived with my diagnosis all this time and it’s not always been pretty. Most of that time was spent trying to raise my children while trying to have some kind of a life which didn’t involve killing people every time I went to the grocery store. My life was in shambles. I despaired of ever getting better or even learning how to cope with things. Until one day, a light bulb went off and I finally learned the lessons I had been struggling to understand all those years. I have turned those lessons into a series of powerful BPD recovery lessons which you can take advantage of, too.
If someone opens up and shares vulnerability with you to allow you to see an intimate piece of them, believe them and hold it sacred.
Anxiety fuels BPD
I teach DBT LIFE skills such as anxiety and stress reduction techniques to people who want to have dialectical behavioral therapy treatment but who can not access it easily. I offer a program of modified DBT.
I teach how people with BPD how to build self esteem and create the life you want to have, which frees you from living a life of turmoil and chaos. I do this by teaching you:
- How to communicate effectively and assertively through assertiveness training
- Why assertiveness training? Because most people with BPD have very poor communication skills. I am a master communicator and I can teach you how to say what you mean so you can mean what you say. in a a non-aggressive, assertive manner. These poor communication skills and do not allow you to express the intense feelings you experience on a daily basis and this is what causes people to act out behaviorally.
- How to change the way you think, a crucial first step because people with BPD have skewed thought processes
- How to practice gratitude each day
By teaching you these skills, I will help you put your BPD into solid remission. To help you do this sign up for my 10 week program which will teach you:
01. How to build self-esteem
People with BPD typically have very low self-esteem. They believe that they are failures and can’t do anything right. This is something they have learned from their family of origin. Because this is learned behavior, it can be UN-learned. I will show you how.
02. How to be accountable for your words and actions
Most people with BPD do not know how to take responsibility for their words or actions. I will teach you how to give a real apology so it means something.
03. How to live in the moment
People with BPD live in the past or the future because of past trauma or unfulfilled dreams. I will teach you how to make a plan for those dreams and put your past to rest.
04. How to put things into perspective.
We see judgement and criticism where it does not exist. We misconstrue abandonment in the slightest bit of distance. I will teach you how to break this cycle.
There is no magic bullet when it comes to BPD recovery. It will be hard work but it IS possible to turn things around. I am living proof of this because I am a long-term survivor of BPD. You can find my story here.
If you are tired of the chaos and living from one crisis to the next, tired of the despair every time you shoot yourself in the foot with every relationship you have, get in touch with me. I would love to help you learn how to live a better life.