What does being grateful have to do with BPD recovery and remission?

Actually, if you are asking me? Everything.

My BPD recovery journey started with learning how to be grateful. You may be thinking, “What the heck do I have to be grateful about, my life is in shambles?” That may very well be true, but I am going to ask you to take a look around you.

  1. Do you have two arms with a hand at the end of each?

  2. Do you have a set of working lungs?

  3. Do you have two feet that take you wherever you wish to go?

If so, those are all things for which you can be grateful

  1. Do you have a dog who loves you and comforts you?

  2. Do you have enough money to put food on the table?

  3. Do you have a roof over your head?

If so, those are things for which you can be grateful

  1. Do you have two eyes that show you the wonders around you each day?

  2. Do you have access to clean water?

  3. Do you have easy access to healthy food?

If so, those are things for which you can be grateful

  1. Do you have good hearing which enables you to listen to music?

  2. Do you have a nice green space you can enjoy?

  3. Do you have a warm and comfortable bed in which to sleep at night?

These were all the kinds of things which I began to acknowledge daily as I began my journey into practicing gratitude. I soon learned that there are literally hundreds, if not thousands, of things in my world that I was taking for granted every single day. Taking a moment each day to really SEE them and acknowledged was both life affirming and life changing for me.

Practicing gratitude started small for me

1) Clean water.

2) Electricity.

3) Good food. Public transportation.

4) My dog

5) . Flowers. Flowering trees.

6) Children laughing.

Anything. If it pleases you and you enjoy it, then it is something for which you can be grateful.

Write them down in a gratitude journal

I posted mine on Facebook. Every day. I still do it, for the most part. 

After about six months I started to notice a shift in me. I started to become aware on a deeper level of all the things I had taken for granted for so many years. We all do it. We all have become so accustomed to the simple things in our everyday lives which make our lives easier. Stopping to notice them and acknowledge them makes a huge difference.

Practicing gratitude helped me stop focusing on the bad things in my life

It helped me get away from my enduring focus on all the terrible things I only saw in my life on a daily basis. And doing that helped me rein in my BPD. For me, that was the beginning. Because I believe in this so strongly, I urge you to give it a try. What do you have to lose? But that’s not really the question… It is: what do you have to gain?