If you live with BPD you may be familiar with this dance. It happens when you react to a prompting event and lash out or turn to self-harm or run away. I call it the Dance of Dysfunction and it goes like this:Read More
The apology(ies) you seek can be found starting on Page 4. Even though this is a long letter, I ask that you read it from start to finish. Most parents would never be as transparent as I am trying to be with you but I think that the information contained in this letter is on a “need to know basis” and that is why I have decided to share it with you.Read More
read your letter. There is a lot I disagree with, but I don’t want to bother addressing all of that now. Suffice to say, your conduct at my brother’s wedding left me with the distinct impression that you did not like me very much and I am at a loss as to how to square that with your general statement that you wish to have a better relationship with me.Read More
t was so nice seeing you, [your wife] and the baby last week when I attended your brother’s wedding last weekend. I wanted to touch base with you about a few things which have been bothering me for some time.Read More
When Dee Chan feels suicidal, it completely overtakes her.
She says it’s like standing on a beach, watching a tsunami wave coming straight for her. She can’t outrun it. She can’t swim through it. She can’t get away from it. So she just stands there, helpless, waiting for it to knock her down and drag her out to sea.
But tsunamis aren’t just one wave. The tsunami earned the nickname “wave train” because once it starts, the destructive waves keep coming and coming. This has certainly been the case in Chan’s life — once the tsunami of suicidal feelings starts, it’s hard for her to believe the waves will ever cease.
I’m an admin on a Facebook page for people with Borderline Personality Disorder. I love doing this work and serving this community. It is one of the most meaningful things I do. Our site is set up so that when a member makes a post, an admin or a moderator has to approve it before it is posted. Last week,one of our members posted a link to a song by a young woman named Bebe Rexha, called “I’m gonna show you.” I listened to the song and was quite impressed with her voice but the lyrics…. I have not been able to get them out of my head and I have been thinking a LOT about what she has to say. Language is how we communicate with each otherRead More