Most of us with BPD can relate to this: you are out with a friend and she says something about your hairstyle which insults you and before you know it, you are off to the races, loaded for bear. One thing leads to another and in no time at all the friendship has blown up in your face and she goes from being a friend and close confidante to a sworn enemy. You are left bewildered and wondering, “How in the world did this happen?”Read More
My former partner broke up with me or perhaps I should say that I broke up with HIM after he assaulted me. We had been on what I had hoped would be a wonderfully romantic holiday in Hawaii. Did we have a fight? Well, if you mean a screaming and yelling at one another kind of fight, the answer is no, we did not. We had words but there was no screaming or yelling. His assault came completely out of the blue. In fact, it was the LAST thing I EVER expected him to do. Ever.
Many of us find ourselves receiving a BPD diagnosis following a hospitalization because of a suicide attempt. In most cases, the diagnosis won’t be troublesome until we go searching for a psychiatrist. Often when the new psychiatrist reads through the chart we soon discover that we have become radioactive. Sometimes the new psychiatrist will refuse to take on a new BPD patient entirely or give the patient so many conditions for treatment that the chances of forming a therapeutic alliance are next to nil. Why is this the case?Read More
When you are embarking on your BPD Recovery and Remission there is one important aspect to keep in mind: the people in your life who have helped you create your BPD will also want to keep you stuck in it. This is often referred to as the “mobile theory”. It goes something like this: Every member of a dysfunctional family plays a certain role. The mother might be “The Martyr” the ever-sacrificing woman who does everything for her family and complains about it loudly to anyone who will listen. “The Patriarch” is probably the father: the one who sits in his chair at the dinner table and pontificates about life and tells everyone what to do.Read More
Behavioral Chain Analysis is a valuable tool for people who have BPD because it helps look back and analyze the chain of events that led to a negative outcomeRead More
Being vulnerable is a very scary and frightening thing for most people. We feel naked and open to the world without any protection and so we learn to try to avoid experiencing that feeling. Sometimes, when we avoid it too much it causes us to become afraid of our feelings. This is what happened to me when I was knee deep in my BPD pathology.Read More