Posts tagged #bordelrinepersonalitydisorder
Fear of Abandonment and BPD

One of the determining factors in the diagnosis of Borderline Personality Disorder until recently was the the fear of abandonment.  That is all set to change in the DSM-5. But while abandonment issues have been officially removed from the diagnostic criteria involved in BPD, they remain a very large issue for many people who suffer from BPD.

One of the determining factors in the diagnosis of Borderline Personality Disorder until recently was the the fear of abandonment.  That is all set to change in the DSM-5. But while abandonment issues have been officially removed from the diagnostic criteria involved in BPD, they remain a very large issue for many people who suffer from BPD.

 

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Borderline Personality Disorder and Rage

When you actually sit down and think about it, borderline rage is driven by fear and anxiety. Fear and anxiety about being abandoned by those we love.Fear and anxiety about being hurt again. Fear and anxiety about not being able to control one’s own environment and the relationships in which we are engaged.

Learning how to recognize the triggers and set up new co

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How Embracing Forgiveness Helped Me Put My BPD Into Remission

My father was a harsh man. He said very little, never gave  compliments or praise but was always quick with a rebuke or a critique. He was of Japanese descent, you see and that is what he learned from his own parents. I grew up in fear of him, his scowling face and hand that was always so quick to reach out and slap my face for saying the wrong thing at the wrong time. I lived in a world of silence because of that hand. His cultural heritage dictated his parenting style.

I wanted a very different father than the one I had.

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The $64 Million Dollar Borderline Personality Disorder Question: Who Am I?

If you have BPD chances are you wrestle with this question a lot. Figuring out who you are can be a major hurdle for many people whether they have BPD or not. But for those of us with BPD, this is something that literally quite often stops us right in our tracks. I say all this while knowing full well that a true BPD recovery depends on knowing who you are. In my opinion, people who do not have a good handle on who they are  become people pleasers and drift along aimlessly through life. When I used to think about who I was and try to figure it out I always used to get tripped up by this, would get lost in a circle of existential thinking about such things as “What is my purpose in life?” “Where am I going?” and “What is the role of God play in this mess?”

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