Posts tagged #apology
Letter to my son Redux

The apology(ies) you seek can be found starting on Page 4. Even though this is a long letter, I ask that you read it from start to finish. Most parents would never be as transparent as I am trying to be with you but I think that the information contained in this letter is on a “need to know basis” and that is why I have decided to share it with you.

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BPD Recovery Entails Learning How To Give A Real Apology

It is extremely difficult for most people to offer up a real apology. Most of the time our apologies look like this, “I’m sorry but….” or “I’m sorry except….” or “I’m sorry however….” If you want to apologize to someone your statement should look more like “I’m sorry for saying …..” or “I’m sorry I hurt you when I did …..” If you qualify your apology or try to shift the cause of your bad behavior onto the other person then it is not an authentic and genuine apology. Being able to give an authentic apology is very difficult. It requires that you take a good, hard look at your behavior and take  real ownership of it, admit that it was hurtful to the other person. 

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