Posts tagged #DBT
What is triangulation and how does it hurt you?

When people talk about people who have BPD one of the things they often talk about is how manipulative they are. I agree that people with BPD can use manipulative behavior but I don’t think we are inherently manipulative -- that is, I don’t believe we are born that way or can’t learn another way to behave. People, whether they have BPD or not, often use a mechanism called triangulation when they are being manipulative. I must say that I believe that people only resort to manipulative  behavior when every other avenue for getting what they want or need has failed. Manipulative behavior should be seen as a behavior of last resort for a person. I also believe that this character trait is, like most other things “BPD” is learned behavior.

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Why it is important to be able to differentiate between primary and secondary emotions

For most people, being able to identify primary emotion is fairly easy. Primary emotions are reactions we have to an external event, i.e. something that happens in your immediate environment. So, for example, when someone you know and love passes away, you may feel sad. If you are going to be having a test in the near future, you may feel nervous or anxious about it. 


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Understanding Prompting Events and Action Urges

Deep inside every human’s brain is a small almond-shaped set of neurons called the amygdala.The amygdala is responsible for regulating our emotions. It is part of what is known as the limbic system.

When a person encounters some form of stimuli, the amygdala sends out a chemical reaction to the body.

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Why I run a website about BPD

I have lived with BPD for a long, long time. In fact, there are many days that I marvel at the fact that I was able to survive myself because I spent years trying to kill myself. I made one very serious suicide attempt which, thankfully, was not successful but it had a tremendous impact on my life.

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Using DBT Distress Tolerance Skills Helped Me Cope With My Big Emotions

For me, my emotional life was always chaotic and out of control.Something would happen to me or someone would simply say the wrong thing and I was off to the races. My husband used to say that my anger was like a nuclear weapon that could go from 0 to 100 in a matter of seconds. I felt that no matter what I did, I could not control it. I would explode and lash out and God help anyone who was in my way because I would simply steamroll over the top of them.

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