Posts tagged #BPDrecovery
What standing in a torrential downpour taught me about radical acceptance

am going to a big, fancy wedding in mid-July and so had to buy a big, fancy gown to wear. This also necessitated a new pair of shoes, what I call “girl shoes.” I don’t wear girl shoes very often any more. Since I broke my ankle and I am quite unsteady on my feet because of my brain injury, the idea of me wearing heels at all fills me with great trepidation. But, I care about this person who is getting married and I don’t want to disappoint or embarrass him.

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How to transform hurt from anger into resilience

One of the most profound discussions I ever had with my DBT therapist had to do with my intense anger. My anger was always an almost knee-jerk response to any kind of slight, however small or insignificant. She asked me, “Do you think you might be reacting to feeling hurt instead and that you turn it into anger because that is an emotion you learned how to express from your father?” I did not really know what to say.

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What if someone could give you the keys to an emotional regulation toolbox?

What if you could be handed the keys to an emotional regulation toolbox? How valuable would that tbe to you? If you struggle with emotional dysregulation because you have BPD then DBT might be just what you need. But how do you access it? Where I live, in Canada, it is very difficult to access DBT. Unless you can pay a DBT therapist or someone trained as a DBT facilitator, it can be almost impossible to get into a class. Here, there is usually an 18 month waiting list.And, when you DO finally get into the class, it is usually a 24 week time commitment. So, what options are there?

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The Almost Unbearable Loneliness of BPD

I have very few friends anymore because over the course of the years of my mental illness, I chased almost all of them away. I woke up one day and realized just what a solitary existence I was living and how lonely I had become. My husband died some years ago and my children all left home to go to university in another town. Because the town where I live and where they grew up is quite small, they all resolved to never return. So, it is just me and the dog now.

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Why The Same Sex Parent is an Extremely important Role Model in a Child’s Life

When you become a parent, your entire world changes. Or maybe I should say, shifts. Gone are the days you can be totally engrossed in only yourself. As a parent, you must focus on an entirely new being in your life, your child. But what happens to the child if the parent is unable to do that? It depends on many different factors.

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How the DBT skill called Opposite Action helps people with BPD

When I was learning DBT one of the most curious skills I learned was something called Opposite Action. This skill teaches that if, for example, you wake up feeling depressed and want nothing more than to stay in bed and just hibernate that you should do the opposite which is to get up, take a shower and have some breakfast. Why?

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