How the DBT skill called Opposite Action helps people with BPD

When I was learning DBT one of the most curious skills I learned was something called Opposite Action. This skill teaches that if, for example, you wake up feeling depressed and want nothing more than to stay in bed and just hibernate that you should do the opposite which is to get up, take a shower and have some breakfast. Why?

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Making a choice to stop the chaos in my life was very healing

A friend once commented to me that I lived my life from “crisis to crisis”. I was taken aback by this because I did not understand the statement and I also did not see it. But after my husband died, I began to take a very serious look at my life. I actually say that it was my husband’s death which propelled me on my road to recovery. If he walked into the house today, he would not recognize me because I have become a totally different person.

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When you are making changes you need a great cheerleading squad

When you are embarking on your BPD Recovery and Remission there is one important aspect to keep in mind: the people in your life who have helped you create your BPD will also want to keep you stuck in it. This is often referred to as the “mobile theory”. It goes something like this: Every member of a dysfunctional family plays a certain role. The mother might be “The Martyr” the ever-sacrificing woman who does everything for her family and complains about it loudly to anyone who will listen. “The Patriarch” is probably the father: the one who sits in his chair at the dinner table and pontificates about life and tells everyone what to do.

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