When people are first introduced to DBT they are often quite stymied by the concept of mindfulness. “What exactly is it?” you will often hear them ask.Read More
I was just discharged from the hospital yesterday evening after spending two days and three nights in the emergency department. I went because my family doctor insisted I go: Either go voluntarily or we will have the police escort you. So, I got in the taxi they called for me and I went and checked in.Read More
When you are embarking on your BPD Recovery and Remission there is one important aspect to keep in mind: the people in your life who have helped you create your BPD will also want to keep you stuck in it. This is often referred to as the “mobile theory”. It goes something like this: Every member of a dysfunctional family plays a certain role. The mother might be “The Martyr” the ever-sacrificing woman who does everything for her family and complains about it loudly to anyone who will listen. “The Patriarch” is probably the father: the one who sits in his chair at the dinner table and pontificates about life and tells everyone what to do.Read More
If you grew up with a parent or parents who neglected you or even outright abandoned you when you were a child, you will no doubt have huge fear of abandonment issues as an adult. When I was a baby I was abandoned in the garden of an orphanage in Seoul,Korea.Read More
Personal boundaries. Very important for everyone but building them and then maintaining them can be two very difficult matters. Having good personal boundaries is essential to maintaining your mental health. Figuring out how to set boundaries and then enforce them is a skill, something that the none of us are not born with but which the vast majority of us are capable of learning.Read More
Until you are able to identify your emotional triggers you will almost certainly continue being victimized by them and the feelings they engender in you. If you want to effect real and lasting change in you life, you must first figure out the things that drive you mad with rage, feelings of abandonment and sadness. Until you do that, you will be powerless to address the underlying feelings and the way you react to them.