Practicing Patience When You Have BPD -- a game changer
How many times have you been standing on line in the grocery store waiting for the cashier to just hurry up with the person in front of you already! Why is she going so slowly? Doesn’t she know you are already late? Well, of course not. How could she know?
Practicing Patience is not complicated
Practicing patience means more than just taking a deep breath and counting to ten. It means looking outside of yourself and assessing the situation in a way that does not relate to yourself. It means doing something over and over again until it is right. It means repeating what you just said to your husband a hundred times until he finally hears what you are saying. Learning to be patient means learning to put your desire for instant gratification on hold while you wait for something you need or want.
Practicing patience with children can be especially difficult and that often requires counting to ten but it can be achieved in other ways as well.
Slow down and remove as many stressors from your life as possible
If you find yourself being generally impatient try removing as many external stressors in your life as possible. Slow down and try not to be ruled by your wristwatch for a day, if possible. Weigh and measure your words carefully before speaking them. This will go a long way toward giving you some time to reflect on your goals and how you want to go about achieving them.
There are many benefits derived from practicing patience. The most important benefit you will probably see right away is the way your blood pressure goes down. You will also see small improvements to your mental health. Studies have shown that patient people experience less depression and who wouldn’t want that?
Being patient benefits others as well
Being a more patient person also benefits those around you. It makes you a better, more understanding friend and allows other people to relax when in your presence because you are more relaxed.