Some thoughts about forgiveness

What does it mean to forgive someone who has wronged you? How does it help you to do this?  Does forgiving another person mean you somehow condone their behavior?


Several weeks ago I published a letter I had received from my son. He was very angry about what he deemed to be another”hate-filled” email from me, an email which had written with the oversight of not one but two therapists. He demanded an apology from me for all the “terrible” things I had done to him when he was younger.

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When Borderline Personality Disorder Means You Live From Crisis To Crisis

A friend once commented to me that I lived my life from “crisis to crisis.” I was taken aback by this because I did not understand the statement — and I also did not see it. But after my husband died, I began to take a very serious look at my life. I actually say it was my husband’s death which propelled me on my road to recovery. If he walked into the house today, he would not recognize me because I have become a totally different person.


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Letter to my son Redux

The apology(ies) you seek can be found starting on Page 4. Even though this is a long letter, I ask that you read it from start to finish. Most parents would never be as transparent as I am trying to be with you but I think that the information contained in this letter is on a “need to know basis” and that is why I have decided to share it with you.

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Reply from my son

read your letter. There is a lot I disagree with, but I don’t want to bother addressing all of that now. Suffice to say, your conduct at my brother’s wedding left me with the distinct impression that you did not like me very much and I am at a loss as to how to square that with your general statement that you wish to have a better relationship with me. 

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