Learning the difference between wants and needs

If you are always struggling financially by the time the end of the month comes it may be because you are getting your wants and needs mixed up. Often people say, “I NEED that [insert item name here] when in point of fact it is something they WANT instead.

Our needs are very simple. We need food, clothing and shelter. Everything that falls outside those three categories are wants. Still, having said that it is easy to feel like you desperately need something.

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How to turn off that hypercritical voice in your head

Our internal dialogue plays a huge part in shaping our opinion about ourselves. What happens if your internal self is always in hypercritical mode, always telling you that you’re stupid or ugly or fat or can’t do anything right?

Having an inner self that says things like this to you on a daily basis destroys your self-esteem and erodes your self-confidence. It is best to learn how to turn this little internal harpie off once and for all. If you have Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) chances are you know exactly what I am talking about but you may not realize the extent of the damage it does or how to stop it.

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What's Love Got To Do With It?

When it comes to finding a partner for marriage I am wondering how much of an issue love actually plays in it. When I was looking for a new partner after my husband died, love was the farthest thing from my mind. I was much more interested in finding someone who had a good sense of humor and could make me laugh. A few good jokes would go a long way in my book. I also wanted to find someone who would talk to me -- about everything from politics to global warming to their favorite recipes. I said I wanted passion but what I really wanted was friendship.

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Why I decided to go back into therapy

Recently, I was faced with a major issue that left me absolutely reeling. My significant other of more than three years decided to abandon our relationship. Devastated does not even begin to describe how I felt. Almost immediately, I reverted back to my age-old behaviour patterns of suicidal ideation. This was very distressing for me because I was convinced that I had finally been able to put my BPD into complete remission and then, suddenly I seemed to be right back at square one again. It really threw me for a loop. It did not take long for me to hatch a very good plan and start to acquire the tools I would need to be able to carry it out.

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